Posted by fallsfall on September 14, 2003, at 23:04:48
In reply to I feel like I want to die without him., posted by kara lynne on September 14, 2003, at 21:25:14
You are right, your heart will always remember. But you need to move on.
Do you have stuff around that reminds you of him? Pictures, knick-knacks, dishes, linens, books, CDs, furniture, etc? This might be a good time to remove them from your life.
KNOW that you are lovable. It is so obvious to me that you are lovable. If it is hard for you to see, please ask me.
KNOW that you are lovable.
Choose something that you've always wanted to do (I did a Cake Decorating class), not something that requires a big commitment - 1 session, 4 sessions. Maybe going to a live play. Something that you can plan, look forward to, and then enjoy. You can plan it for 6 or 8 weeks out if you are afraid you won't have the energy for it.
Find a new therapist. We can talk about this on Psychological Babble. Do you have any prospects?
Know that you are lovable.
Don't call him.
Know that you are lovable.
Peppermint Stick with Hot Fudge, Whipped Cream, Nuts and a Cherry (the one with 5 scoops, not 3).
I know it is hard. Even though I know I won't go back to my old therapist, I was missing her something fierce tonight. Knowing that the relationship is DONE is important. It doesn't stop the missing, but, at least for me, it helps me stay more (not completely, but more) realistic.
Buy that Teddy Bear.
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