Posted by Scentedgarden on January 2, 2007, at 19:22:04
In reply to Re: falling apart » Scentedgarden, posted by wishingstar on January 2, 2007, at 18:00:16
> thanks.. im thinking about taking a hot bath tonight and maybe some hot chocolate later..
I just had one and it was nice..hope you do it too...
trying to comfort myself. but the reality of what im doing TO MYSELF just isnt going to go away. I almost feel like it's unfair to comfort myself to make myself feel better about doing something that is crappy to begin with. I'll comfort myself when I stop being such an idiot, but for now I dont feel like I deserve it.okay..so even if u just think about laying in a hot bath and drink your hot choc...its a start....i know it can be so hard to love ourselves when we dont know how...do myou have any cuddly toys you can snuggle in to..? Hope thats not taken as a childish thing...i mean it with all the respect in the whole world ...
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> It's not that I dont know what I want to say, or that I forget.. I just dont say it. I cant. I dont know how to talk to her and say what I want her to hear. I know how I feel, but how do you tell someone that? I know that sounds ridiculous, but I just cant do it. I can tell stories and describe and answer questions but none of that hits it.What is it you want to say? pretend im her and you only have five mins to tell me...what would you say../ Oay maybe thsats a silly question or way for me to put it....sorry lol
but seriously..you say ''i know how i feel, but how do you tell someone that?''
well id just say, listen dr. x ive given this considerablwe thought and i ahve decided id like to spend 5 mins before i forget this session to stell you that....XXXXXXXX and you just tell her how you feel..
are you scared? if so what scarfes you about telling her howw u feel...? but if youre not scared and just dont know how to tell her...maybe you could tell her exactly that....Listen dr x ( sorry i dont know your t's name) ...i dont know how to tell you this , but, this is how i feellll..'''
and give it a go maybe see how it goes...whats the worst that can happen...you sure as GOd cant feel any worse than you did all day today...right!...you won be going away having ONLY skimmed the surface..and kicking yourselff....I do empathise ,as i know, ive done it and i still do it...so your not on your own...
theraoy is hard and all this is part of the hard stuff...you even telling her how you feel is hard...maybe noone encouraged you to share your feelings growing up...so people like us dont know how tyo do it as its alien..thats why we go to therapist...so we can practice these skills with a trained psychologist....sorry im not patronising you really im not...
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> I think I am going to wait until tomorrow to decide on Thurs like you suggested. Part of me wants to go, but the big part of me knows it wont matter and I'll probably feel worse, so I'm just not sure.great idea...as scarlett o'hara said at the end of gone with the wind...after all tomorrow is another day..'' okay so that may not apply totally but it still is a new day...
i also know that split feeling should i stay home or should i go see her...? part wants to so much and part does not want to..my experience is the part the wants to is the healthy part...
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> I do appreciate the support. thank you. im sorry im being so negative. The support does help.
lol....haha honestly who cares if you're being negative right now...its okay...if thats how you fel just be negative..i really dont mind...i can see your really struggling with this ....so please no need to apologise, next time...but i will acccept your lovely apolgy thjis time...just to make you feel beter..lol....now get the milk on for that hot choc...and dream of the running water filling the hot tub...
May God bless you with peace tonight...peace just to not have to think anymore about this just now...na night... it's 1.20 am here in the uk...
scented garedn
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