Posted by muffled on January 2, 2007, at 17:31:06
In reply to falling apart, posted by wishingstar on January 2, 2007, at 16:19:12
Well WS, sorry you feeling so bad :(
I'll throw something out there.
You been burned bad by a T.
Ginny is nice and all, but I wonder if you having a problem bonding with her.
Took me a year to get bonded to my T. Even at that I don't fully trust her, but enough.
So I don't know how tough w/boundaries Ginny is, but my T used to go walking with me (with her dogs!!!). Sometimes we would sit outside on the grass for a session. I tested her quite a bit.(sent nasty faxes etc)
I dressed if full protective regalia(jeans, jeanjacket, ballcap, knife, boots !).
I kept asking her if she was scared of me.(and she, without batting an eyelash, would say, should I be?! LOL!)
Etc, etc, etc.
The road to trust took a while...
So mebbe you just haven't yet got to the point of trust yet with Ginny? Cuz that trust needs to be all of you, not just surface WS. Or you will be still in protective mode.
Just a thot.
Nuther thot I was thinking is mebbe just go 1x/wk only until you do build up the trust...built trust and safety, and coping mechanisms.
Take care,
Keep posting,
Muffled
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