Posted by muffled on January 3, 2007, at 10:43:46
In reply to I just realized the difference, posted by wishingstar on January 3, 2007, at 10:22:06
> I realized that Ginny conducts sessions almost completey in questions, where Laurie uses many, many more statements than questions. Just a difference of "did that feel hurtful to you" versus "..and that was really hurtful" at the end of some story or something. I'm making it into an interview, not a conversation.
> Now that I've realized that, it helps.. but I'm still left with the same problem. Learning to be emotional and real in this relationship. Because that's as good a lesson as any other probably.**Yay Wishy! This is the stuff that helps! Little things lead to more!
My T sometimes asks questions, and I feel interrogated when she does that. She does it occasionally I guess when she is trying to figure a particular thing out.I'm not exactly verbose... Fortunately she doesn't do it often.
The other thing my T will do is say, 'that must have been hurtful' and she will follow it up with, 'am I right?'. I guess she doesn't want to put words in my mouth.
I am being more real with my T, but not yet emotional.
IMO I think it comes down to 'style' of therapy. And you two are still needing to work out what works best for you and Ginny. Me and my T are STILL working on that, but its definately getting better.
I still think alot of the problem of being able to be real and emotional still comes down to the trust thing.
Its such a huge thing for so many of us who have been burned in our formative years....so its not a strange thing, but its SO ingrained and hard to get by.
Thats where writing helps me. Stuff that there's NO way I could ever say to her(just about ANYthing really)I can type on my computer. Then I read it mebbe 100x, then I just send it.....
Works for me. I truly don't know how else I'd do it. I want help, but I just CAN'T say it to her face, I get all dissociated and lots and confused and paralyzed with fear.
So I think you figgering good stuff.
I still think it would be useful for you to print out this thread and take it to your T for educational purposes.
I think it would help her to help you.
Take care,
Muffled
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