Posted by Dr. Bob on December 22, 2010, at 0:43:46
In reply to Re: To Dr. Bob, posted by morgan miller on December 19, 2010, at 21:15:46
> I'm curious as to why you did not give me a bit more time to say "the right thing" and properly rephrase what I originally said where you blocked me on the Faith board. I did respond and I do not believe my last response was a defiant one. I simply stated why I said what I said.
Right, you didn't rephrase or apologize. Or say you wanted more time.
> What I am not sure I understand fully is why the use of the word patronize was thought of as uncivil. I mean, I think I do understand it, but I don't see why it was really that out of line
I'm glad you understand why I considered it uncivil. I didn't mean to imply that it was that out of line, just that it was out of line.
> everything he said was pretty much a personal attack on specific ways that you are running this site.
1. Two wrongs don't make a right.
2. Disagreements aren't necessarily uncivil. Different points of view are fine, and in fact encouraged here.
> So, was it the uncivil wording I used that got me blocked, or was it the content of what I said that could lead you to feel accused or put down? I hope it was primarily the uncivil wording.
Would you say the difference between an I-statement and a you-statement is the wording or the content? Would you like to give rephrasing a try now?
> There must be more flexibility used in the enforcement of the rules here. Or there needs to be a change in the rules. Whatever it is, some type of adjustment should be made in my opinion.
How about some kind of community council that could lift blocks? :-)
> being a doctor, you would think he understood that it can take people a very long time to learn to communicate their feelings in the best most productive manner.
I do understand that. For example, it took CE three weeks in the thread that's being discussed.
Bob
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