Posted by violette on December 21, 2010, at 0:04:29
In reply to Re: Assumptions are presumptuous » alexandra_k, posted by Solstice on December 20, 2010, at 23:18:00
"Is that what I'm doing? You live inside my head and have personal knowledge of what I'm 'attempting to do'... I'd like to suggest that it might work better for you to make a bunch fewer assumptions about me, about where my heart is, and about what my motives are."
I can't be sure Soltice, but it sounds like what you said above about Alex's post, is what you said below about others' posts. Did it occur to you that some people here might view Bob as a forum administrator, rather than an 'authority figure' through childhood trauma lenses? And those who had no traumas...?
Not meant in a negative way, i just think sometimes you are my cognitive opposite, and i think it's interesting. Much of your stated thoughts - are the opposite of mine .I mean this in enteraining way (holiday stress can cause odd behavior sometimes)..Did you ever take Meyers Briggs? I'd guess ESTP...you describe things very concretely.
"Those of us who still carry throbbing wounds of trauma will have a more difficult time 'hearing' Bob charitably because what he says gets filtered through the pain of the particular trauma we carry....it is very, very easy for me to see and relate to the difficulties I see here in how Bob is perceived through the wounding experiences of our trauma histories."
P.S, as you might guess, I interpreted Alex's statement totalllllyyyy different that you did. I thought she was referring to a suggestion made by you that some will respond more positively to peer criticism about posts as opposed to Bob critisim about posts (rather than saying YOU were doing something) (?):
> If people don't appreciate it when Bob encourages them to consider their issues instead of considering his behavior I'm not sure why they would appreciate it any more when someone else attempts to do this for him...
"Is that what I'm doing? You live inside my head and have personal knowledge of what I'm 'attempting to do'... and you are satisfied that your impression is fact?"
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