Posted by paula on February 20, 2002, at 19:52:58
In reply to Re: i miss having friends, posted by trouble on February 20, 2002, at 4:39:53
Hi trouble, I had to smile at this...
> and as the resident musicologist on this board (Kid_A you gonna stand for that?) I'll point you in a direction or two.I'm in a graduate program in historical musicology! Other than the little bit of cheesy pop music I listened to in high school (late 80s), my taste is decidedly non-rock: all jazz, world, and "classical" (esp medieval and Renaissance). Music can be a wonderful way to soothe the savage beast.
I'd recommend actually singing or playing in addition to listening. THe choir I'm in has been a real lifesaver. Not only do I have a musical outlet (now that my trumpet days are largely behind me) but I'm forced to be social twice a week. This actually does lead back in to the original topic of your post, Lili. I've been a little astonished over the last year to "discover" that I haven't made any good, close friends in 7 years or so. Part of the recovery process for me is learning to feel lonely again. Sounds weird, doesn't it? Anyhow, from where I'm sitting, you're a few steps ahead of me: at least you're able to really experience what you're feeling.
As others have said, those "friends" that abandoned you weren't real friends. I hope that you can find some caring people to encircle you with friendship.
Yours musically,
paula
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