Posted by gardenergirl on January 10, 2007, at 10:28:28
In reply to Re: Being Angry » Daisym, posted by annierose on January 10, 2007, at 6:46:37
I agree, I do think there's something there about pushing him away. I recently heard the same thing from my T when I was telling him that he wasn't hearing me and understanding what I was saying, and that he was jumping in and talking a lot instead of listening patiently. I was sure that he was not "on" as usual for some reason, and I wondered if it might be related to termination from his end. I'm still not entirely convinced that he wasn't contributing to it in part. But he suggested that I might be viewing him as less competent and feeling angry with him in order to make it easier to terminate. (Still heading in that direction, but no date set yet after the first false alarm...).
I think it makes sense that we could do this unconsciously, because it does make it "easier" in some ways. And it's what we know a lot, too. It doesn't mean we are doing something "bad" or "wrong" or any other negative adjective. It just means we're being. It is what it is, and we most likely come by it honestly.
Still, I know it's confusing and draining. And if it's not this going on, whatever is sounds like it's still confusing, upsetting, and draining.
Hang in there.
gg
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