Posted by antigua3 on November 25, 2007, at 8:24:37
In reply to Re: I am impressed » Racer, posted by ClearSkies on November 24, 2007, at 21:12:43
The days after are always the hardest for me. That's when I used to drink--I'd make it through the holiday w/my mother and then all my resentments would come forth and I'd drink.
I don't do that now (not that I wouldn't like to!). I just know to be very careful afterwards. My mother left yesterday and I can feel myself sinking. We had a great visit, but there's so much there underneath that I won't/don't want to deal with. for me, it's "what's the use?" I certainly don't want to hurt her now over things from the past. She is a different woman, and we've discussed what happened to me, but there's no further benefit at this time. So, instead, I internalize it.
I'm doing pretty well--didn't sleep too much yesterday! but my son is going back to college today and that will be another trigger.
all I'm saying is take care of yourself. You are different from me, but it's just something I've learned about myself.
My thanksgiving was actually very nice. I just gave everybody jobs to do, so I didn't do it all. I orchestrated it, and still wore myself out, but everyone had a job, right down to the youngest who helped set the fancy table, and my college son mashing the potatoes with his uncle.
It works for me, now, and there was only one guest who sat the whole time, but she did help wash the silver. I do the inital cleanup to make sure the silver doesn't go in the dishwasher and then I walk away--to a nap usually!
But, for years I've always done what you did. All the work, w/no help and no appreciation. No more for me!
take care Clear Skies--you are the best,
antigua
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