Posted by Dinah on November 23, 2007, at 12:38:39
In reply to What a turkey of a Thanksgiving, posted by ClearSkies on November 23, 2007, at 9:58:27
It's a setup.
You are culturally trained to demand perfection of yourself on holidays with gifts or food or hospitality of you. And the expectation is that you'll spend those same holidays among the people who cause you the most stress.
And THEN you're supposed to feel grateful *on that day*!
You aren't being ungrateful to admit that it was a giant mess. Except in very lucky families, it likely always is.
I figure it's possible *either* to have a giant family celebration with tons of expectations *or* to ponder on our many blessings. But only the few can do both at once.
poster:Dinah
thread:796666
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