Posted by alexandra_k on January 5, 2006, at 21:59:11
In reply to Re: I read it differently » alexandra_k, posted by sleepygirl on January 5, 2006, at 21:37:40
> Multiple interpretations are almost always possible,
*always* possible methinks ;-)
and... there may be no further fact of the matter...
OR
internalising an interpretation could make it so (which is even worse because then it would mean that those who offer negative interpretation might be more likely to produce harm than help)> but some individuals are indeed less than charitable,
though *why* are they uncharitable?
a charitable interpretation of *why* might be...
that they don't appreciate the likely consequences of their interpretation (for their own thoughts / feelings / patterns of behaving)...> and would rather put a stamp on it and call it "done", because the countertransference can be so difficult to deal with, because we're all flawed maybe and needy and because of all the pain.
yeah... one should probably be charitable to therapists too ;-)
i think... it is because they don't appreciate the likely consequences of their interpretation.
sometimes... people are in the grip of a theory too, and they believe they have hit upon *the truth* or *the fact of the matter* regarding another persons intention...therapists are people too and they aren't perfect neither. and yeah, there is a lot of pain in the world. and yeah, i have already tried to describe (charitably i hope) *why* people might be feeling frustrated in response...
> That is "there" and not "here" I mean, and so it propagates what is felt as an inherent badness possibly in the first place.
yeah...
and people get worse :-(
and clinicians wonder why?????
that is why (IMO) some therapists can be terrific because they are able to grasp something of this...
and that is why (IMO) i have had some fairly terrible DBT therapists because they thought it was a purely verbal move and they didn't seem to appreciate the reasons *why* one should be charitable...
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