Posted by NikkiT2 on January 6, 2006, at 14:12:46
In reply to Re: I read it differently » JenStar, posted by alexandra_k on January 5, 2006, at 21:01:55
one of the biggest learning curves I've had inb my new job, is realising that actually, yes, therapists DO think their clients are often being manipulative.. they often actually dislike their clients.
Just because Linehan wrote something in a book, doesn't make it 100% correct.
As someone with BPD. As someone who does alot of voluntary work with people with BPD. As someone who works in a paid manner with people with BPD..
We *do* manipulate. We are masters of manipulation.
Take an example of mine..
I was doing very very badly.. But I couldn't get the help I needed. The waiting lists were long, and it felt to me like I wasn't "ill" enough, or that no one believed I was ill enough, for the help I so desperately wanted and needed.
So, I got a knife and cut myself, on my hands and forearms. because I *knew* that they would be seen, and I thought that if I could show them I could cut myself, they would think I could do more, and thus give me treatment.Thats manipulative behaviour.
Every day at work I am told "if you don't make x happen, I will do y"..
So so often "friends" say "if you don't do x, I will do y, then you will feel bad".
What Linehan stresses is that therapists mustn't give in to the manipulation.. That if they do, it reinforces that the behaviour will get the end results desired. Positive reinforcement and all that.
Like I say, just my point of view to throw into the mix
Nikki
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