Posted by pegasus on September 15, 2004, at 12:54:22
In reply to Achingly, painful hurt (this is VERY long), posted by saw on September 15, 2004, at 3:12:45
I think that your husband's behavior shows very clearly that he is not always able to handle his problems on his own, and that he could definitely benefit from some counseling. If he really doesn't ever regret anything he does, and yet he does stuff like you just described, then that, my friend, is a definite problem that he is not handling well.
I'm so sorry that you have to have that extra difficulty with your husband piled on top of your depression, which is plenty hard enough, I know. It's soooo hard when people we care about and depend on don't understand. But there are a lot of people out there who *don't* understand that different people have really drastically different experiences and skills and chemical situations.
I don't know how to make them understand. But I agree that having my husband talk to my T was very helpful. My H tends to be in denial, and minimize my problems, even if he doesn't ridicule them. It was really helpful to have my T sit him down one day and say, "Do you realize that at times you are the only thing between her and suicide?" Seeing my T take it so seriously somehow gave him permission to see it for what it was.
But it sounds like your husband is a different nut to crack. I wish you lots of luck in finding a way to manage this together.
(((saw)))
pegasus
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