Posted by saw on September 15, 2004, at 5:34:14
In reply to Re: Achingly, painful hurt (this is VERY long) » saw, posted by antigua on September 15, 2004, at 4:53:28
Hi Antigua
You know, my husband is very strong mentally and copes and deals with different things in an alarmingly composed way. He has relatively few hold-ups though he does know how to hold a grudge.
But your sentence "my husband uses my "problems" to shield himself from having to deal with his own issues" smacked me in the face. This could be it. He DOES have issues. Goodness, even the sanest of sane have issues. He is always telling me that he never regrets his actions. I think I have just discovered an issue! (In my heart, he must surely regret some of the horrid things he said to me).
We haven't even been married 5 months yet! I am not having any therapy at the moment. He went with me to my first and last app but I could sense and see the skepticism. When I next see my pdoc to see how the meds are doing, I am going to ask him to come with. Even if only to explain the chemical imbalance issue.
If I ask him to do counseling, he will burst out laughing! He *always* knows how to solve his own problems. (Hah - think I found another issue!!)
Thanks for that
Sabrina
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