Posted by Racer on February 18, 2004, at 19:58:07
In reply to Teenager late (AGAIN) for school, posted by fallsfall on February 18, 2004, at 7:16:41
By the way, you don't have to worry too much about being nice and being gentle with your daughter. First of all, mothers are like allergens: once you've been exposed to them, you'll always react to them. Your daughter will love you just as much if you do *force* her to allow herself to be helped. She'll also probably appreciate the stability and security that comes from firm boundaries. Plus, we like you, so you are inherently likeable. Therefore, your daughter will have to be a likeable, fairly intelligent teenager. As a consequence of these two facts, she will be intelligent enough to recognise your inherent likeability and like you.
With my former stepkids, they didn't really take to me until the first time I ever lost my temper with them. I raised my voice in the car, as they were hitting one another over the seat fighting about whose turn it was to sit in front, just hollered "QUIT!" Four very round eyes on me, and two little boys in my lap the second we got home, snuggling and purring.
Best good wishes for you, and I hope it turns out well for both of you.
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