Posted by fleeting flutterby on February 17, 2009, at 15:01:32
In reply to Re: What if.........., posted by Phillipa on February 13, 2009, at 21:26:19
> ... that is basically what happened to me with the T I was seeing she said well it's been a year and nothing has changed. Let's make it three weeks now instead of two. Hence never went back.<<
flutterby:--- I'm sorry that similar happened to you. :o(
>> I felt she didn't want me as couldn't fix me so to speak but when someone keeps asking the client why isn't she or he supposed to help you figure it out?<<flutterby:---- Yea, I would think they should help the client figure out the answer-- not expect the client to HAVE the answer.
>> So I'm a theraphy failure. Add that to my list of failures. Fleeting Is This how you feel? Love Phillipa<<
flutterby-- Yea, I feel similar. I'm sorry phillipa, that you are feeling as a failure. I don't think you are-- you just haven't came across the right one..... it's hard to find the right one...
I have a new therapist and it is going along much better in one year than all 3 years put together with my former T. I don't ever feel unsafe now, I don't feel stupid, she is always asking me if I understand a point that she is making. She's so nice and caring and pushes me when I need pushing. I think she literally sees inside my head! I will get a bit uncomfortable about something and she seems to instinctively know what to say to calm my anxiety-- how does she do that??!
Like some of you here do-- she gets me to see things from a different angle, one I hadn't thought of before. I like that-- there isn't always just ONE view. :o)(ever trying to get out of that "black or white" thinking......)
flutterby-mandy
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