Posted by fleeting flutterby on February 16, 2009, at 18:13:05
In reply to Re: What if.......... » fleeting flutterby, posted by antigua3 on February 13, 2009, at 10:09:01
> This is very tough to hear. I know because I've heard it before and the answer in my case was to be booted out of therapy.<<
flutterby:---- Oh dear, I'm so sorry this happened to you. I'd be so devastated if that happened to me-- I truly don't think I'd ever go to seek therapy ever again. I'm so sorry you had this happen. :o(
> But... this may not be true in your case. Did your psychologist ever contact you after you said you were quitting? I'm not clear on this. You say that he had no idea what brought you to this decision, which makes me think you had some contact with him, but you didn't bring up the reason why you were terminating.<<<flutterby:---- Yes, we shared some emails back and forth and he didn't understand why I quit. Now after reading some of these posts-- like yours-- I feel bad for him. I s'pose I figured it was very clear why I would quit after hearing such a comment as-- "I've taught you all I know". but... maybe he truly didn't know the reason???..... hmmmmmmm....
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> It's terrible to leave things hanging; they eat away at me until I resolve them.<<flutterby:--- Yes, I so agree.
> Do you have an opportunity to resolve this? Can you talk to him about this? If you can, I think you should, because as someone said, he may have meant that he'd taught you all he knew and now you would have to move on and learn together. I'd like to think that was the case.<<
flutterby:--- while this does sound like the thing to do-- I'm so effing fearful-- I've not been able to do such a thing. Now I fear I'll either make him mad at me or he'll feel he made a horrible mistake in saying what he did and then he'll feel bad about himself and I just can't deal with the thought of him feeling bad becasue of me...... that would be devastating...... Darn it!! think I've put myself between a rock and a hard place...... why do "relationships" have to be so uncomfortable for me?? argh......
> I wouldn't think it was a "secret" way. I think he would have been much more direct, and even recommended someone else who he thought could help you better. I don't think he would have just abandoned you like that.<<<
flutterby:---- You know, my "logic" agrees with you so much-- but the "heart" is so so confused.---i'm tired...... i must go for now, I'm sorry.....(*tears*)..... I'll try and answer the rest of the wonderful posts when I can get some energy. I so wish I could do things the right way with relationships....... it's so difficult and confusing.....
flutterby-mandy
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