Posted by fleeting flutterby on February 17, 2009, at 14:48:02
In reply to Re: What if.........., posted by raisinb on February 13, 2009, at 20:30:07
>> Of course, all therapists have different styles and some are more confrontational.<<
flutterby:--- Yes, I see that now. I used to think therapy was therapy-- no matter who you go to-- Don't know why I thought that...*shrugs*..... now I know, it can be like comparing Antarctica to Belize-- while they might have some things in common they are so so different.
> As far as the "I've taught you all I know," it's probable that he was trying to get you to become more adept at finding your own answers.<<flutterby:---- He would ask me very difficult questions, of which I'd have no idea how to answer them.(which would raise my anxiety, as I felt I should know the answer or else he wouldn't be asking me) I think he thought I was further along than I was.
>> But it sounds like you didn't mesh with this person.<<<flutterby:--- Yea, :o( I think I didn't mesh with him, but tried and tried so hard. I really wanted for him to help me heal.
>>I'm sorry it didn't work out, and I think if you have any lingering feelings about it, it might be productive to go back for a session or two to clarify what he meant. I'd certainly feel rejected by that comment, so I don't think you're out on a limb at all.<<thank you for telling me you relate. I do feel better having come here and talked about it..... just can't believe how so many understand how I felt. it sure feels nice to be understood..... very nice.....
flutterby-mandy
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