Posted by mayzee on July 23, 2006, at 20:50:38
In reply to Re: as above, breaking my heart » mayzee, posted by madeline on July 23, 2006, at 11:30:27
Hi Madeline,
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> I accused him of every trick in the book - leading me on, being a big fake, a coward, a liar - not just any liar but the WORST kind of liar. I accused him of being on a ego trip, I begged him not to hurt me anymore. I wrote long scathing letters about how he was nothing but a jerk and that he was the worst thing that ever happened to me.
>It sounds like you were very good at being open & honest with your T! I'm getting pretty good at it with other feelings, but not so much with my feelings for him.
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> He would always tell me that the love I felt and the love he felt for me didn't have to hurt anyone.
>My T has never said anything about the love he feels for me (if only!). I think he cares about me but our relationship just started so I don't have alot of trust in it yet.
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> You just have to be open to the whole emotional process in therapy, nothing is right or wrong. It just is.
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Yeah, I guess that's the core of my work... being open to whatever is; not judging it, not trying to shut it down or hide it. Being aware & accepting of it.>
>If this is the first time you have felt love in three years (for me it was MUCH longer) then run with that.
>Actually it's more like 5 years but I think I was too embarrassed to say that. But what do you mean "then run with that"? I wish I could run with it, but he's not willing!
Thanks for sharing your experience!
mayzee
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