Posted by mayzee on July 23, 2006, at 20:40:23
In reply to Re: as above, breaking my heart, posted by inimitable on July 22, 2006, at 17:54:02
> well mayzee, i am currently working on DBT skills, my therapist is a cognitive behavioral kind, i don't know what kind you are working with, so maybe this info wouldn't help. but i am just working on different kinds of skills that help me cope better with stress, or they are suppossed to anyways. things such as observing how i am feeling, yet not holding onto that feeling, not getting stuck on feeling that way i guess. and learning to be one mindfully in the momemt, whatever moment that is, like if i am eating, i only eat, and pay attention to the sensations of eating. or being in a conversation wholeheartedly. some of this is common sense, but it's kind of different, my t could explain it better i guess.
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Hi inimitable,I'm not too familiar with the specifics of DBT, though I know it involves mindfulness and I have studied that through various stress mgmt & meditation classes, and I've found it to be more helpful than much of the therapies I've done over the years.
This therapist does ISTDP (Intensive Short-Term Dynamic Psychotherapy). "Its primary goal is to help the patient overcome internal resistance to experiencing true feelings about the present & past which have been warded off because they are either too frightening or else too painful." (from Wiki) I suffer from depression, and alot of my work with him deals with trying to get me to be 100% honest & authentic about what I'm feeling, rather than covering it over with anxiety or turning it against myself or using other defenses (avoidance, helplessness, etc.) It's intense and very hard work for me. And a lot of it has to do with practicing this by being honest about how I'm feeling towards the T. So the whole crush thing is brutal when he keeps asking "So how do you feel towards me now?" It's certainly challenging to be 100% honest & authentic when what I really feel like doing is jumping his bones! :) I guess the goal would be for me to feel OK to tell him that rather than feeling extremely anxious.
Anyway, as you work with your T, please let me know if there are things that you learn that help you deal with this specific situation. Like I said, this is the first time I've ever had this come up (having had 6 other Ts)
Good luck to you too, and thanks!
mayzee
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