Posted by Dinah on May 10, 2005, at 16:54:48
In reply to Re: I could be so much happier. **trigger**, posted by pinkeye on May 10, 2005, at 15:13:20
It isn't too late now. You can't change the past, but you can change the future.
I brought a few posts that I had written on this thread to therapy today. I told him that I hadn't even really realized that I had absorbed those things and truly believed them until I wrote them to you. I asked him if he was proud of me for my glacial progress. :) And he said that he was proud of me, and that he also felt good to be a therapist at that moment.
So if someone as stubborn and hardheaded as I am can change, you certainly can. A good start would be to sit down and start figuring out where you want your boundaries to lie.
And yes, they don't respond all that well at first. But I was surprised to find that it wasn't as bad as I thought it would be. My mother and father both loved me and wanted to maintain a relationship with me, even if it wasn't on the terms they would prefer.
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