Posted by Bent on March 9, 2005, at 8:15:22
In reply to Re: T and Sexual discussions **possible trigger » bent, posted by LG04 on March 6, 2005, at 21:57:01
I dont think I really have any suggestions as far as getting through this. I so often ask my T when will it (the feelings) just go away. Of course its not very reasonable to think they can just go away. I wish there was a switch I could turn off.
I know what you mean about the pain. I often long for my T and I dont tell her about it. She knows the basics and how I tend to see her or want her to be my perfect mother. I just dont tell her the intensity of it. I wish I could tell her that I feel like I love her. Just yesterday I asked her if she thought things were ok between us and she said that the fact that we were talking about indicates they are. Thats true because there was a time when I wanted to run from therapy all together rather than ask her about 'us'. I can (slowly) talk about it now, and I am learning that she isnt going to abandon me, so I guess things are ok between us.
Really I think the best thing is to keep talking about the feelings. Easier said here than in therapy sometimes I know. Its a battle in my mind everytime I want to talk about my feelings towards my T - but then I talk about them, and I feel better. I guess that means I am on the long and winding road to get through transferenceville. I wish someone who has made this journey would write us a map though!!
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