Posted by Daisym on March 5, 2005, at 18:02:55
In reply to Re: T and Valentine's Day, posted by LG04 on March 5, 2005, at 15:15:55
Hi LG,
I hope you don't mind that I added a trigger alert to your last post. You said a lot of very important things and were so honest, I just don't want anyone to wander onto this like I did and well, get triggered.
I think you ask so many great questions. There are several books that are really explicit about women's sexualality and there are a couple for women who've been sexual abused. I'll try to dig up some names for you.
You sound like you've asked so many intense questions of your therapist, why wouldn't you just tell her this too? She might decline to answer but you could talk about why you want to know, what this need is and how you fill it.
I've had the same "is this normal" questions pop up many times, not just about sex. My therapist says there is no normal, but that everything is a negotiation between two people. If it makes you feel bad, scared or hurt in anyway, you should try to figure out why, change it or say "no". Easier said than done sometimes.
I'm impressed with how much you've put together for yourself already. And I'm sorry about your history. Amazing how it invades so many places of your life isn't it?
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