Posted by LG04 on March 6, 2005, at 21:57:01
In reply to Re: T and Sexual discussions **possible trigger » LG04, posted by bent on March 6, 2005, at 13:37:41
thanks bent for all the nice things you said.
i definitely transfer my mom longings to my therapist. that's the biggest issue that i struggle with in my relationship with her. i am working so hard to let it go, to let the mom fantasy go, but when i get close to the pain, i back away (both from the pain and i threaten to leave therapy b/c it's too much for me). it's SO SO overwhelmingly painful. we are trying different things to help me lessen my transference with her and to be able to grieve the mother that i so desperately want. i really want to let it go. it's not productive for me and i would be so much happier if i could stop looking and just accept that it won't ever happen. but my little kids go nuts inside when i start to grieve. they want to keep pretending forever.
i know that i am making progress on this but i sure wish it would be over already. i guess b/c the pain is so intense, it has to be slow, touching the edge of the grief and then backing away and then going in it again and then backing away...until i eventually work it thru.
any helpful hints you've found on trying to work it thru?
LG04
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