Posted by daisym on March 7, 2005, at 23:31:05
In reply to Re: T and Sexual discussions **possible trigger » daisym, posted by LG04 on March 6, 2005, at 13:01:30
Thank you for taking so much time to write out your story. You were very brave to confront your dad - I can't imagine how bad it hurt to hear him deny it.
A few months ago my sister told me she was "touched" by our dad too...she was looking to reconnect with me. We are on different planets as far as our life styles go but I'm being as supportive as I can be. She doesn't know about me and I'm not telling her. It is complicated but best for now. I'm sorry your sister can't accept your overtures. Families are so hard!
I was really struck by what you said as far as your mom stuff goes. I'm sure this is going to be my biggest struggle -- to stop wanting what never happened and can now never, ever happen. I think that touching the grief, and stepping back is the only way to get through such a painful thing. It feels like rejection of your very core self and that is just too much to bear. I know that my separation issues from my therapist are wrapped all around this. I just don't know how to be done with it either.
Yeah - "it's a process" -- I know! I wish it was a faster one.
Thanks again for sharing. It is always good to hear from someone a few years ahead of me.
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