Posted by Joslynn on January 15, 2004, at 13:17:49
In reply to Re: Ummm uh oh? » Dinah, posted by Karen_kay on January 15, 2004, at 12:34:33
Hi Karen, Personally, I don't think it's appropriate for a male therapist to tell an attractive female client about arguments he has with his wife.I think it is kind of like using you as a therapist and also disrespectful of his wife. Now if he just made a general statement, like "all marriages involve arguing at times" that would be fine. But do you mean he gives you specific details about arguments in his marriage?
Confession: My shrink, who is usually pretty by-the-book, once made a slip in a similar way. I was talking about an argumentative communcation style of my boyfriend at the time, and he said something like, "I know what you mean, I've experienced that in some relationship too." Of course, I had to press the issue, and asked with whom. He said, "my wife," and then quickly said, "but I shouldn't talk about that" and changed the subject. I could tell he knew that he shouldn't have said that as soon as it came out. He's never said anything sexual or went into details about arguments with her.
It made me feel weird enough to do some research on the internet, and here is one link that I happened to save on my hard dirve, in case the discussion came up again. It didn't, but here is the link, scroll down to self-disclosure blurb: http://www.division42.org/MembersArea/Nws_Views/articles/Ethics/boundaries.html
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