Posted by Pfinstegg on January 15, 2004, at 12:04:07
In reply to Re: Ok Ladies, Listen UP!!!! » antigua, posted by Karen_kay on January 15, 2004, at 11:41:44
This is completely fascinating! As an immediate response, several of the things your therapist said really do sound like boundary violations. However, as I've read more and seen what's happening to you, I think I would characterize what he's said as boundary "crossings", which, when made by either client or therapist, can be immensely helpful. He's trying to reach across and say, " you can live a full, sexually rewarding life, too. " And you felt completely safe when this was occurring, I think- and also felt better afterwards- on a sustained basis.
To give an example from my own therapy, my analyst said to me once, "you're sexy as hell". Now, that sounds just awful when I write it, but in context, I felt completely safe and validated- and it was part of some very positive changes which were occurring in me. So, who's to judge, or say, other than the persons involved?
Pfinstegg
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