Posted by antigua on January 15, 2004, at 9:02:33
In reply to Ok Ladies, Listen UP!!!!, posted by Karen_kay on January 14, 2004, at 14:32:04
O.K. Karen, here's my take on this. You have a "youngish" therapist who is still learning how to be a therapist. I, too, believe that in the years to come he will quit answering questions like yours and revert to the old "why do you ask," "how would it make you feel if I did fantasize about my clients," etc. Inappropriate or not (and I'm not saying it is at all), I think your T was trying to connect w/you and build your trust--he seems to know what makes you tick and if he can relate to you, you will feel more comfortable opening up to him. Especially since this has to do w/sexual issues, which you admitted you do have. (me too, I'm joining the club).
Trust is at the heart of your relationship. I agree w/whoever said that what works for one of us may not work for another. I think you're brave to ask the question. I would ask anything if I thought it would advance my therapy, but that's only because I trust my therapist completely.
One more thing about therapists and kids. Sometimes when I walk in my therapist asks me if we could change seats so that I could help her w/her problems. We laugh about it, but it makes her human. I know her daughter, she's a great kid, but my T tells me that her daughter says that if her mother's clients knew what she was like in real life they would never come to her for help! I believe it. It's her job, and she's very good at it, but she certainly is not perfect in her own life. My T also says lots of kids of therapists are really messed up!
Best,
antigua
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