Posted by Miss Honeychurch on January 15, 2004, at 8:34:41
In reply to Re: sexual boundary crossing, posted by Speaker on January 14, 2004, at 22:12:47
Karen,
I had to read your post like 5 times to make sure my eyes weren't playing tricks on me. The first time I read your post, as I was reading it, I kept waiting for the "This is only a joke" tagline. But it never appeared!!!
I was completely and utterly shocked by what your Therapist said to you. You can talk about honesty all you want, but in my opinion, what he said to you was plain unprofessional and unethical. To admit to you that he masturbates to patients is outrageous. And I will go out on a limb here and definitely say that he was indeed talking about you when he said he fantasized about patients. He is a MAN. He has told you you are beautiful and his favorite patient - this leads me to logically believe that you are in his pantheon on "muses" I suppose. And while you must be flattered, this has got to strike you as a little unprofessional.
Here are his list of infractions:
Asked you what size bra you wore
Told you he fantasizes about patients
Told you he masturbated to these fantasies
Told you that YOU masturbating to his image was "consensual"KAren, if you had a daughter, and you saw this list, would you feel comfortable sending your daughter to this guy?
Please forgive me for being nosy. I just really like and respect you and want you to get the best care possible. These are all red flags. What do you think? Am I too prudish?
poster:Miss Honeychurch
thread:300720
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20040110/msgs/301065.html