Posted by Karen_kay on January 15, 2004, at 15:01:34
In reply to a link, posted by Joslynn on January 15, 2004, at 13:17:49
Ok, I know (or am fairly certain) that the reason for disclosing the one petty and one rather serious arguments were somewhat relative to therapy. One that he constantly gets into with her is the fact that when he does something forgettful or silly like leaving the lid off the peanut butter, and she busts him, he lies about it. Now, I wonder what that had to do with in the first place. And he told me another story, but he wasn't going to but he started to and stopped. And of course I wouldn't have it. But, it related to how stopping negative thoughts and calming yourself down can change a situation. I guess his wife went out shopping with her mother and he was supposed to meet her but he couldn't find his car keys and his child took his diaper off and went #2 on the carpet (ICK!) and so he couldn't meet his wife and she kept calling to find out why he wasn't there, but he changed his thoughts,ect and she got take out and they lived happily ever after. And I also know about a rather big fight they had where his wife was griping about him not helping with the children while he was studying for his big test (?? anyone know what test??) and he got mad and stormed out.. I can't remember how that related but I'm sure it did. He doesn't just tell me these things because I say, "How's your week been?" or anything, but hmmm....
Our relationship is really headed in the right direction. So, I don't see that it is interfering with therapy if he is overdisclosing on occassion... And it helps to fill up the dead air sometimes.
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