Posted by kylenn on August 9, 2006, at 11:05:31
In reply to Re: Your son » kylenn, posted by Estella on August 9, 2006, at 7:54:38
Thanks again for the advice.
Some of those things have already been done.
I mean, counselling, that has been done several times.
He actually had a job with Microsoft problem shooting for customers via telephone about their new XBOX consoles; and he reports he was one of their best people at that job.
But, he lost it because one day his friends and he all got together for a "lan party" which is basically like a little video game competition with your friends.
He decided the game/party was more important than showing up for work.
It was not his first time to get fired from a job for misplaced priorities.
I told him this morning after thinking about what you said last nite about me providing the xbox live hookup and I told him I was cancelling our internet connection at the house, and he told me no problem because he has so many games stored up he could play those and not miss the live connection at all. And he could go down to McDonald's because they have free wifi, and on and on.
He rightly told me that I would be the one to suffer most by not having an internet connection.
I have to padlock my bedroom when I go to work because just asking him not to go in there has never worked. He told me two days ago that he has gotten in my room 3 times in the last week to get stuff while the door has been padlocked.
He simply unscrewed the latch from the door, went in, and then screwed it back in.
I also, unfortunately, cannot afford to pay for him to go to counselling anymore.
His father was an absentee father. He never even sends a card on Richard's birthday.
I have also thought that the lack of a good male role model probably played a part in his lack of initiative.
But, all that is behind me now.
It is getting really close to crunch time for my son. And I have to be really strong and not let my feelings of sadness and guilt cause me to enable him for much longer.
That is going to be the hard part for me.
It will break my heart to have to kick him out of my house.
But, I am getting near to that as my only option to keep my own sanity.
Either choice is a threat to it.
THe only thing that would be good for me is if he got up today and found a job and his life finally turned around.
But, I have been hoping for that for a really long time.
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