Posted by Estella on August 8, 2006, at 23:46:57
In reply to Re: Yikes! I agree with Estella, posted by kylenn on August 8, 2006, at 23:21:19
> I am tired of the personal bashing I am getting.
I'm sorry that you feel like you have been getting a personal bashing. I'm sorry if I've said anything to contribute to that.
> As usual, no place for me.
I'm sorry that you feel like there isn't a place for you. I've felt like that a lot of my life. Like people wish I wasn't around. It isn't a nice feeling :-(
I think that Babble can be a very nice place. I think you could stick around if you choose and you might be able to find some support here.
> Yes, I may sound harsh.
Why do I keep being misinterpreted?
I do not understand.Do you understand why you got PBC'd? The bit that Bob picked out to PBC you? Can you see how that statement is likely to lead to people feeling hurt and feeling upset themselves and then the conversation is likely to escalate into a conflict? That is the purpose of PBC's. To show us our role in why it is that people may be likely to get wound up and misinterpret / misunderstand etc.
I have trouble sometimes. I want support but I'm feeling kinda upset and irritable. When I feel like that I tend to free associate my thoughts kinda like what you have been doing. And that can be okay... But it is a fact of life that we have to be a bit careful in *how* we express ourself so that others are more likely to support us rather than feeling upset in response and posting something hurtful back at us.
I've learned a lot about interpersonal communication in my time here. It is hard... It can be very hard for me.
I'm sorry you are having a hard time of it. I hope you stick around. I'm not sure whether some of the things you have said since your PBC are likely to result in admin action or not. I'll be sad to see you blocked. I hope you stick around. It is okay to express yourself... But one does have to be careful about *how* one expresses oneself because of how other people are likely to respond.
poster:Estella
thread:674781
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/poli/20060610/msgs/675090.html