Posted by morgan miller on December 24, 2010, at 1:55:33
In reply to Re: saying the right thing, posted by Dr. Bob on December 22, 2010, at 0:43:46
>Right, you didn't rephrase or apologize. Or say you wanted more time.
I believe that you should give people more time. Instead, someone may get blocked and never want to revisit the issue and try to make it right or apologize. Or, someone might not want to come back to Babble at all.
I may have been stubborn about apologizing, but given a bit more time, I may have come around. I guess it's never too late. Sorry for using words that were uncivil. I should have tried to say the same thing and maintained the content through wording my thoughts differently.
>1. Two wrongs don't make a right.
That was not my intention when using Scott or others as examples.
>> What I am not sure I understand fully is why the use of the word patronize was thought of as uncivil. I mean, I think I do understand it, but I don't see why it was really that out of line
>I'm glad you understand why I considered it uncivil. I didn't mean to imply that it was that out of line, just that it was out of line.
I'm going to assume the word patronize should not be used here in most cases. I still believe it was the best word to describe what was taking place in the thread with CE(I have at least one reasonable member here that agrees). I'm sure you already know that. I'm going to assume that because patronize is usually used in a negative manner it is not a word that will be received well here. What if I were to say to a member here, "Please do not patronize me in this way", or, "I feel that you are patronizing me, which makes me feel disrespected, put down, and uncomfortable"?
Morgan
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