Posted by Phil on August 27, 2013, at 20:26:15
In reply to Re: Solve this riddle for a container load of Seroquel, posted by alexandra_k on August 17, 2013, at 21:00:51
> sometimes it can help to step back...
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> IF i posted nasty stuff to her... WHY would i have done that?
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> let your mind wander.
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> did she hurt you in some way? post something that you found hurtful... did she ignore you...
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I've stepped back, that was first. I never would have cared if she ignored me. She couldn't hurt me if she tried. She was none of my business. Still, kinda shocking to wake up to a house burning down.
She's not the worst. My fb post almost got me a free ride to the psych ward. How would you like to tell the police you have no memory of a post written 20 minutes ago?
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> a while ago i remember reading something by... i think it was john suler. about the 'online disinhibition effect'.
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> with our online communications there is a dissociation already built in. the other person isn't standing in front of us. we don't get immediate reactions or responses to what we are saying. sometimes... i think that means we don't tone down or otherwise lighten up or back off - because we don't get signals from others that they are listening, they do understand, or that the way we are conveying the message is hurting them.
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> with dogs... when they are fighting... aggression ceases when one submits. except in some dogs. some have thought this is a model for psychopathy / sociopathy. some don't stop when the other submits. they continue. it is like they don't get the message that they can stop. they just keep going. i think that this can happen with online communications because of the time delay and the lack of real-time emotional responses (*while* we are conveying the message).
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> that is one thought anyway.
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How people treat you is their karma
How you react is yours.
poster:Phil
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