Posted by alexandra_k on August 17, 2013, at 21:00:51
In reply to Solve this riddle for a container load of Seroquel, posted by Phil on August 17, 2013, at 12:59:57
sometimes it can help to step back...
IF i posted nasty stuff to her... WHY would i have done that?
let your mind wander.
did she hurt you in some way? post something that you found hurtful... did she ignore you...
?
a while ago i remember reading something by... i think it was john suler. about the 'online disinhibition effect'.
with our online communications there is a dissociation already built in. the other person isn't standing in front of us. we don't get immediate reactions or responses to what we are saying. sometimes... i think that means we don't tone down or otherwise lighten up or back off - because we don't get signals from others that they are listening, they do understand, or that the way we are conveying the message is hurting them.
with dogs... when they are fighting... aggression ceases when one submits. except in some dogs. some have thought this is a model for psychopathy / sociopathy. some don't stop when the other submits. they continue. it is like they don't get the message that they can stop. they just keep going. i think that this can happen with online communications because of the time delay and the lack of real-time emotional responses (*while* we are conveying the message).
that is one thought anyway.
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