Posted by Dinah on August 21, 2013, at 21:40:25
In reply to Re: Letting go, posted by baseball55 on August 21, 2013, at 20:31:22
When I was very young, we got along fine. Better than with my father, really. But my mother doesn't care for children as much once they reach ten or so. It was true with me and it's true with her grandchildren.
Fortunately, my father liked children far better once they were past age 10. :) So they kind of traded off, and I didn't get along with her as well. And things got worse after Daddy died. He was able to moderate her behavior somewhat.
I think no matter the relationship with parents, it is a charged relationship. My father was by no means an easy person, and it was difficult as his health was declining and made worse because I loved him so much. My mother is by no means an easy person, and it's made more difficult by the fact that we haven't always gotten along, but I still have good memories of her when I was younger. So there's a push pull of anger and frustration, and guilt.
It's just hard with parents, no matter what. What's the saying? They installed the buttons, so they know where to push?
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