Posted by B2chica on June 8, 2006, at 15:44:43
In reply to Can I ask some questions about sex here?, posted by Donna Louise on June 8, 2006, at 15:19:42
of course you can talk about it here...
my first thought would be to work on the fear part of having sex first. my guess would be that some of your inability to enjoy sex would come from all the anxiety or fear from sex.
i wasn't quite sure if you were interested in the surgery to enhance enjoyment or if you were dealing with some type of pain...it kinda sounded like some pain. so i guess my statement above needs to be adjusted because alot of tension and fear (for me anyway) would come from knowing it would be painful and not pleasureful.if you know for a fact that the surgery would help with your pain/lack of pleasure, don't let the inacctivity of a few weeks stop you, however, i don't know that it would necessarily increase your libido. so you may still have that as an issue.
i by all means don't want to talk you out of a surgery that could change how you think and feel about sex (for the better) but i'm pretty cautious and i'd hit all the other routes out there first to make sure i've taken care of everything else that's in the way. it doesn't sound like you have only one barrier.sorry i'm not much help. i don't know of any drugs that increase libido. but maybe some of these smart folks do...
best wishes
b2c.
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