Posted by AuntieMel on June 22, 2004, at 11:00:29
In reply to Re: HELP! HE makes me feel crazy! » AuntieMel, posted by littlep24 on June 22, 2004, at 10:41:04
I know I've said this before, but I can be a stubborn witch.
The things you are talking about are *exactly* what al-anon meetings were designed for. I've never been to one myself - being the drunk in the equation - but I've seen it work wonders for people. Especially with resentment issues.
One of the most difficult things for the spouse is the issue of power. When one person is actively usint, the other tends to take up the slack (bills, child rearing, etc.) When the "user" goes into recovery, one of the first desires is to take part of those chores (the power) back - which can cause more resentment.
Just my opinion
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