Posted by octopusprime on December 10, 2003, at 23:09:09
In reply to Re: anger redux - the toolkit!, posted by kara lynne on December 10, 2003, at 22:33:36
((kara lynne))
oh dear.
dealing with those that have alternate versions of reality is difficult.
but people can't cross our boundaries.
you should not have to accept your mother's denial of her own behaviour - by denying it, she's denying you your own experiences and invalidating your feelings.maybe you don't have to hang up the phone on her - maybe just give her the choice to change the topic of conversation? "i don't want to discuss this with you, let's talk about XXX instead" should be a tool in your arsenal. your life your rules.
maybe you can take her to therapy so you can learn to communicate? just a thought. it's an uphill slog.
have a good rest.
poster:octopusprime
thread:288612
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20031207/msgs/288642.html