Posted by kara lynne on December 10, 2003, at 21:53:59
I was ok. I was dealing. PMS, but dealing. I talk to her for six minutes and it's gone. I say, 'Gotta go now, mom'. She says as an afterthought, 'Well how are you?'.
Always, at the end of the conversation, when she's passively slayed me and I finally say Uncle, she innocently asks how I am. It's really amazing. She had the whole rest of the phone call to ask, but chose to undermine me instead, and make sure to let me know I've offended my brother--who lives to offend me. So I survive by staying out of contact, and then get punished for it. Does she care *why* I'm not in contact? No, she just digs at me like a three year old.
Then I talk to my other brother who, in a terrific display of emotional regression himself, tells me to shut up because I have said something wrong. But it is like saying something wrong to a small boy.
What is wrong with this picture. Spawned from a family of narcissists I have no tools to deal with anything, and can barely escape with my life after having any contact with them. But then I am punished for not having any.
poster:kara lynne
thread:288612
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