Posted by six on December 9, 2003, at 20:25:35
In reply to Re: that is so sweet. me2 » Jai Narayan, posted by JadeT on December 9, 2003, at 19:50:12
Thank-you Jade, for broaching such a delicate topic.
Yes people have been made to feel uncomfortable
I am one of them. Jai I don't know if you can see this or not, but Lar, has tried to establish clear boundaries several times and it hasn't worked, that's why it has come to this. Of course no one wanted you to feel bad.When you refer to yourself as a red-blooded woman who can't wait to hear from him, Or become upset when he doesn't answer your posts when you think he should, and advertise your upset in the subject headings for everyone to see, it puts someone in an a terrible position.
You say you want to be friends, friendships take time, and they require listening.After Lar's second reminder, this was when you called him honey.. no in itself this calling someone honey IS no big deal, however its not something you normally do, and you pointed this out to him. And you did this AFTER he asked you to tone things down.
It does appear to be a game. And yes he is being put in a very awkward position, I know this to be true.
You speak of kindness frequently
but kindness is an action, and I believe there are other people's feelings to consider here.
If this was truly not your intention, then perhaps its a kindness that Jade let you know how your actions are coming across, as hard as that might be to take.
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