Posted by fallsfall on September 23, 2003, at 7:51:32
In reply to Re: Job fell through, posted by kara lynne on September 23, 2003, at 2:41:35
Kara,
I'm sorry about that job. Octopus is right though. That job has shown you that there is something out there worth working towards. It just would have been nice if you had it and didn't have to work towards it.
I used to hire people and read hundreds of resumes a week, if you are looking for feedback. I think that one important thing that I learned from that hiring frenzy is that the most important thing is that the applicant and the job and the company match. You can have the most wonderful applicant, but they are just wrong for the job. I hired people to do really meticulous Software Engineering - they had to make sure that all of the little pieces that went into the software application were there and were right. Lots and lots of detail. I invented an interview question that helped me find the right people. "When you were playing Monopoly with your friends as a kid, and they all got up and left and you had to put it away, how did you put it away?" It was amazing how different the answers were. From "I throw all the pieces on the board, pick up the sides of the board so it makes a 'V' and pour all the pieces into the box" to "First, I pick up the money. I sort it into the slots in the box making sure that all of the bills are right side up and facing in the right direction. I put rubber bands around the Community Chest and Chance cards and put them on top of the 10's and 5's in the box. I collect all of the property cards and put them in the order they are on the board. Those go on top of the 1's. Houses on the 20's. Hotels on the 50's. Pieces you move around the board on the 100's, and the dice on the 500's". Quite a difference, huh? Guess which one I would hire for that group? But the first answer was given to me by one of my best project leaders for a different group. His group didn't need the meticulousness - it needed more of a global view of things. And he was perfect.
So, not getting a particular job doesn't mean that you aren't a wonderful person and great employee. Sometimes it just means that the fit wasn't right. You'll find something where the fit is right.
And significant others are the same way. You need to find someone who fits right with you, and who you fit with. And just because you don't have that now doesn't mean that you never will and doesn't mean that there is anything wrong with you. It is all in the "fit".
Sleeping pills and ice cream. Wow, Kara, you have taken it to new heights! I'll have to try that sometime soon. (Seriously, it sounds good to me - my sleeping pills are green capsules, Maybe white Mint Chocolate Chip with the capule on top instead of a cherry? I think chocolate with the green would not be as good).
You could move East. Then I would be here and so would you.
(((((Kara)))))
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