Posted by kalyb on September 4, 2003, at 18:39:40
In reply to Re: Birthday Pain » kalyb, posted by KimberlyDi on September 3, 2003, at 10:27:58
Thanks everyone for your replies and support!!!
I'm feeling much better now - it's taken a few days to dissipate and thankfully Landlady's not been too bad this week.
Fallsfall wrote:
> I haven't seen many posts from you recently and it looks like new things are
> happening! New Guy! That is so exciting. I'm so happy for you. And looking for
> an apartment away from LandLady. That is very big! I'll also mention (though I
> hate it when people say this to me) that your post sounds better than your
> posts months ago. Even though you aren't happy, it sounds like you are moving
> - you don't sound as stuck as you did. That must be nice.I am feeling a lot better - it's part of that is the Effexor, part the new and exciting horizons ahead. New Guy lives about 50 miles away, so I spend quite a lot of time staying with him. He has friends who he meets almost every night down the pub, and while going to pubs and drinking wouldn't be my first choice of pastimes, I get on very well with his friends and they're becoming my friends too - I have lots in common with some of them.
And I'm exploring his city, which I like much more than where I am living. It's old, run-down in places, crowded, but interesting and with something different round every corner. Before moving here I spent 18 years in Big Bad London and I miss it!! This new place reminds me of it in some ways, plus it's a great place for walking or cycling and has plenty of cycle lanes. And it's small enough to get anywhere by bicycle.
Gabbix wrote:
> I have much birthday baggage. I think I understand. And I'm sorry you had an
> awful birthday, I really am. Those aren't just words honey, I felt that.Ahhh.... :))))
Birthday baggage. Not nice is it? Yes I have loads. And I guess every year I hope to have a good one to make up for the past...> And may next year be better for both of us.
Amen!!Kara Lynne wrote:
> Aside from that how is it going with the New Guy?
>
> And a belated birthday hug from me.
> {{{{{{{kalyb}}}}}}}}
> (notice special bracketed hug!)I noticed! Thank you, sweetie :))))
New Guy is odd.... not quite what I'd have thought I might end up with but he's also very keen despite the birthday fiasco. Like me, he's an eccentric, but a brainy one - for some reason I go for guys with very high IQ's. He seems to have his own self-esteem issues which I won't go into here. But as a positive influence, he's fantastic. It's not just the moving to the new city, he's actually bought me a [very old and decrepit but working] motorbike and I'm saving up to do my compulsory bike training so I can get on the road - my very first motorized transport :)
He's also pushing me kindly but gently towards getting a job, and sometimes not so kindly.. *grin* All-in-all, I have a new life, and even if me & he don't work out, I'll be in a much better, more secure and positive position than I am now.
Dinah wrote:
> Now in my husband's house, his birthdays were treated as high holidays.I think that's part of my baggage, Dinah... right up till I was about 15, my birthdays were, too. Then one sudden birthday, I got a card from my folks, no gift as previous years, and they went out for the day leaving me to look after my younger sister. They told me I was too old for a party now. It was such a contrast - I can't tell you how unloved I suddenly felt. I cried all day. Maybe I just hook into that feeling of abandonment when I have a bad birthday now... or hope they will be like the others I had as a child?
> Aside from being somewhat slow in the birthday celebrating department, is New
> Guy a generally terrific guy? Are you enjoying your time with him?See above... *grin*
Kimberly Di wrote:
> I'm worried about this New Guy. If this is a new relationship, he's treating
> you like the honeymoon's already over. That's a bad place to be. New
> relationships are usually the best of times with gifts, flowers and so-on. If
> he's not trying to impress you now... Just don't jump to live with New Guy to
> try and fix Landlady problem. Good luck sweetie.You know, that crossed my mind too - but isn't that just a dream? I've never had a guy buy me flowers like that ever, anyway. I don't think he makes much of birthdays himself. But he is good for me in other ways, I really can't complain. Even if we're not going to be together forever he's pulled me out of a difficult time. I'm not going to rush into living with him either, I am looking for my own place, but near him and these new friends. In fact he's said he doesn't want to live with me yet... see how good and sensible he is? ;)
Thanks again everyone for your kind comments and well-wishes... hugs to everyone... I still read the board even if I don't post much (and I make a point of seeing how you're doing Kara, so if I don't write I think of you and send you my good thoughts).
love to all, kalyb xx
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