Posted by fallsfall on September 1, 2003, at 13:30:43
In reply to Birthday Pain, posted by kalyb on September 1, 2003, at 12:58:33
Happy Birthday!
It is interesting how "small" things can be really important to us. But birthdays aren't really small. They say "I'm happy you were born. I'm happy you are here". You've gone to a lot of effort to make sure that other people's birthdays have been special - and I'm sure that they have appreciated that. Would it be too much to ask them to expend a little effort for your birthday? I think not.
Sometimes people can miss something like this, not because they don't care about you, but because maybe their brain works so poorly (like mine) that they couldn't remember what day it was. Or maybe the way that they see birthdays is very different from you - and to them presents and cards don't mean anything - so it doesn't occur to them that they might mean something to you (maybe they could have figured it out by how you handled their birthday). Maybe they had no money. So there might be some extenuating circumstances for one or more of your friends. But I think you can be hurt that none of them came through.
I haven't seen many posts from you recently and it looks like new things are happening! New Guy! That is so exciting. I'm so happy for you. And looking for an apartment away from LandLady. That is very big! I'll also mention (though I hate it when people say this to me) that your post sounds better than your posts months ago. Even though you aren't happy, it sounds like you are moving - you don't sound as stuck as you did. That must be nice.
So good luck with New Guy, and finding an apartment. And if New Guy is still around next year, do tell him what you NEED to make your birthday feel right (I can understand why you didn't for this year.).
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