Posted by Ted on August 15, 2003, at 21:26:01
In reply to Re: How to prevent a man from turning into a child? » Ted, posted by Susan J on August 15, 2003, at 9:11:04
>I guess I just don't understand, really, why I
>keep attracting men who want me to take care of
>them.You might have cause-and-effect confused. It may be more likely that there is a personality trait of such men that you are attracted to.
>My therapist says I keep finding men I have
>to "fix"Maybe...
>and that I should find a guy who's already
>emotionally healthy.Does your therapist tell you exactly how to do this? I am interested in his/her instructions for finding an emotionally healthy mate.
>I tried to help this last guy I was involved
>with, only to watch him shut down emotionally
>until he literally wasn't even human.Some just can't handle it, either because of maturity, openness, etc.
> Does your wife have a single brother? :-)
:-) Not single. But he wasn't one of the smart ones in the family.
> But really, that's great that you found someone
>both intellectually and emotionally compatible
>with you. Is it luck, or hard work?I wouldn't say just how compatible we are. Ours hasn't be the best of marriages, but we have made it work for over 16 years.
Ted
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