Posted by Ted on August 13, 2003, at 17:03:31
In reply to How to prevent a man from turning into a child?, posted by Susan J on August 13, 2003, at 13:58:22
My wife says she has two boys: our 7-1/2-year-old son and me. :-)
>I REALLY find this to be a problem and I always
>wondered if it's due to boys growing up in
>single parent households where the mom is in
>charge.I grew up in a two-parent household and my mother was in charge.
There are two different types of children men can become: emotional and playful. Your complaint is valid for the former, but not the latter. I am (I think) in the latter category.
Another problem is that men often have difficulty with emotional development because of sexual stereotypes, the ways we are raised, and often the lack of emotional support from family. If you find someone you truly like, instead of giving up if the emotional development is lacking, try instead to help him understand and learn. You can do this without being a mother figure.
An old saying I constantly remind myself of, "The secret to a long and happy marriage is 'Yes dear'".
I, too, had the problem with finding women who were smart enough for me. I have high standards, even though I have only a BS from university. I dated a PhD; a girl who graduated highschool in 3 years, tutored mathematics, and was first-violin in the orchestra; and my wife who got her math/CS degree summa cum laude.
Ted
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