Posted by Krissy P on March 26, 2003, at 11:42:17
In reply to Ah the mystery » Krissy P, posted by Kar on March 26, 2003, at 10:25:35
Hi Karen:-)
thanks for the reply.
You are so funny when you say "for cripes sake"...I hear ya here. You have such a great attitude on this and it's helping me a lot. thank you for that.
yes, I saw this guy last week, Todd. We had gotten in touch back in May of 2002, when I had moved to Oregon. I moved back to California and we decided to meet up:-)
Oh no in any way am I smothering him-I know that-I'm actually a little shy when it comes to guys. Don't wanna analyze that lol lol I just know where to set my boundaries lol
Tomorrow it will be a week since I've heard from him.
Our 'date' started with a hug, reminiscing about our 10 year reunion, and ended with 2 hugs, to add to a few touchy feely taps throughout the evening.
Basically he said take care, and come back. Yes, I know he had a good time, in fact, a girl had said to him, when I left,"Todd-I like her" so maybe that helped heheheh-just a little nudge? who knows.
Anyway, That's all I can remember, you can see that I really am interested in this guy lol:-) I am.
Maybe I'll email him again and just put hope you got this, write, I know you're probably busy, etc. so we'll see......and maybe something like I haven't heard from you in about a week...(which isn't that long)I, too, would think that he would at least email me, but maybe he didn't get my email-I don't think that is the case-he did-he got the other ones, BUT, he did say something like, "I must have been only replying, because I had a different email addy for you" (my old one), but he has my cell and my home # too *sigh* lol
anyway, yes, Nikki does have some great input:0)
(hugs to you Nikki)thanks for this what do you think now? lol
kristen:-)
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------hey Kristen. I'm Karen; welcome to the board!
So I need a little more info. You saw this guy last week but you were e-mailing and talking for how long prior to that? It's so frustrating that this always becomes such a guessing game, isn't it? It doesn't really sound like you're threatening him...in other words making him feel "smothered". You know how they can be. 4 days is a good amount of time to wait.
How did your date end? Did he say, "See you soon" or what? Also, from today, how long has it been since you e-mailed? Nikki was right (i think it was she who said this)that it is a slight possiblity that he didn't get the message. Althooooough...he really should've e-mailed you regardless.
I met my husband online. I remember after our first date on a Sunday, I saw him again on Monday night. I thought things were just ducky (it turnes out they were). He e-mailed Tues. Stop. Nothing Wed-Saturday and I got all huffy. You know, the old "Well I didn't really like him anyway" rationale. I talked to my women friends and my guy friends. The guy friends said that they didn't really think it was unusual that he hadn't e-mailed or called and it didn't mean that he wasn't interested. Just clueless. So I waited. Saturday the stinker called to see if I wanted to go out that night, for Cripes sake! We still joke about it. He didn't even think that it was anything...he was just wrapped up with work. He had thought about me but just didn't get around to calling. Man. So unpredictable. I think a lot of women (I anyway) have a tendency to analyze things more and act a little more sensitively. Then when men don't act in kind, we assume that something's amiss. It might not be. But how annoying.
I don't know what to tell you. When i waited he ended up getting around to calling. I felt as if I'd coming across as too needy if i wrote again. My only caution re: e-mailing him again is that if he is shy or leery (or who knows what), he might get spooked. It sounds like he had as good a time as you did.
hang in and congrats on your soon to be earned degree!
Karen
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