Posted by Kar on March 26, 2003, at 10:25:35
In reply to A guy who hasn't called LOL............, posted by Krissy P on March 25, 2003, at 23:20:26
hey Kristen. I'm Karen; welcome to the board!
So I need a little more info. You saw this guy last week but you were e-mailing and talking for how long prior to that? It's so frustrating that this always becomes such a guessing game, isn't it? It doesn't really sound like you're threatening him...in other words making him feel "smothered". You know how they can be. 4 days is a good amount of time to wait.
How did your date end? Did he say, "See you soon" or what? Also, from today, how long has it been since you e-mailed? Nikki was right (i think it was she who said this)that it is a slight possiblity that he didn't get the message. Althooooough...he really should've e-mailed you regardless.I met my husband online. I remember after our first date on a Sunday, I saw him again on Monday night. I thought things were just ducky (it turnes out they were). He e-mailed Tues. Stop. Nothing Wed-Saturday and I got all huffy. You know, the old "Well I didn't really like him anyway" rationale. I talked to my women friends and my guy friends. The guy friends said that they didn't really think it was unusual that he hadn't e-mailed or called and it didn't mean that he wasn't interested. Just clueless. So I waited. Saturday the stinker called to see if I wanted to go out that night, for Cripes sake! We still joke about it. He didn't even think that it was anything...he was just wrapped up with work. He had thought about me but just didn't get around to calling. Man. So unpredictable. I think a lot of women (I anyway) have a tendency to analyze things more and act a little more sensitively. Then when men don't act in kind, we assume that something's amiss. It might not be. But how annoying.
I don't know what to tell you. When i waited he ended up getting around to calling. I felt as if I'd coming across as too needy if i wrote again. My only caution re: e-mailing him again is that if he is shy or leery (or who knows what), he might get spooked. It sounds like he had as good a time as you did.
hang in and congrats on your soon to be earned degree!
Karen
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