Posted by aliI on June 4, 2002, at 21:33:01
In reply to visiting the grave » aLII, posted by beardedlady on June 4, 2002, at 6:43:01
>> I talk to her several times a week. I think of her at 11:00 p.m., if I am lying awake, because that's the time we used to talk for hours. I send her messages. I look for replies.
i wish i still had that kind of memory of him but at eight there isn't much one can remember when faced with such loss
>> You needn't visit the site of the body to conjure the spirit of the ones you love. The body itself is inert. The spirit is how we communicate. So don't beat yourself up over a symbol.thank you so kindly for a loving reminder that I must find own way
>> Furthermore, you are at a low ego point, but I'm certain your dad would be able to see the good person you've become, and that would have made him proud. Look, for example, at how you helped me--and others--on this board. It's okay to ask for help, too, but you are not selfish, as you have been eager to give. That in itself is something in which to take pride.
just don't know how to respond.......I did all I could to go wrong for many years and then got what little I had to get together somewhat together. I know so little about him that I am almost afraid to begin asking
>> Every morning at breakfast, I tell my daughter stories about my grandfather, who fed me either Farina, Cream of Wheat, or Life (my daughter's three favorite breakfasts) every morning before third grade, when I lived there briefly. That way, he's alive for both of us.that is lovely way of keeping him alive. I wish my family could have done that....I try now but other things need to be dealt with first
> Talk to your dad. It's a nice meditation, and it may help you come to peace with yourself.
I used to but I haven't felt him in a long time and that is very, very sad for me
Again, your words are gems to me to help pull me through boggy hell in which I exist currently.Emeralds if ya gotz em. I like emeralds.
--a.
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