Posted by fiona on May 5, 2002, at 20:01:17
In reply to Sibling Loss, posted by Paige on May 5, 2002, at 19:21:55
I am so sorry for your loss. It is devastating when someone close to us dies. I am afraid that I don't know what advice to give you, only offer my sympathy and understanding. I had a friend who died of leukaemia 11 years ago and although we knew it was going to happen it still was a huge shock and I felt, like you said, lost and also helpless.
I still think about him often and what helps me is remembering how much joy he brought into the lives of those who knew him, the practical jokes he used to play on everyone, and how much of a pain in the ass he was! I know that doesn't sound very nice, but I mean it in the nicest possible way! Even when he was really sick he liked to play tricks on us. Sorry, I am starting to ramble a bit now, but I can't help it :)
When he died I sought comfort in my friends and family, which helped a great deal. Slowly my life got back to normal again, but it was over a long period of time and I can't really say that I did this or that to get by. It is true what they say that time is the greatest healer.
I am sorry if that sounds cheesy or corny, but it is true.
Take care of yourself, that is the most important thing of all.Fiona
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